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Core Principles to Live by for a Happy Successful Marriage

based on a personal compilation

Terry-Ann Scott

Marriage is a beautiful thing and we all have the chance of experiencing it's beauty. Marriage is especially beautiful when God is in it.

In my opinion, every marriage has its own unique formula for it to work. and we must depend on God to give us this formula as each person and each marriage is uniquely different. Marriage is work, and it takes work to maintain every level of new happiness discovered.

So, we pray to God for a spouse, and we got our gift unlocked (found the right person) and with a big smile we watch until we begin to unfold flaws...things we did not bargain for. From here we begin to criticize and declare what we want, and without effort to work for it.

If we want our marriage to be happy, we have to enter into this union with the correct frame of mind, removing all unhealthy expectation, and learn how to create a healthy environment for our marriage to sustain the life in it. Marriage is a selfless thing, or so it should be. Marriage requires give and take and it can never always be about what you want or what you are not getting. In other words it can never always be about just you; but it should be about your spouse. Take care of each other's need instead of trying to satisfy your own all the time.

According to the world wide web, some of the top reasons for a divorce includes but is not limited to:

1. Poor communication

2. Financial problems

3. Lack of commitment

4. A dramatic change in priorities

5. Infidelity

6. Failed expectations/current needs

7. Addiction and Substance abuse

8. Other abuse

9. Lack of conflict resolving skills

If we are going to have a happy successful marriage, we must first be willing to WORK with God to eliminate these cause. If you truly want your marriage to work then be prepared to give 100% of yourself to your spouse and not just a part. You will never know if something can work until you put your all into it.

Now close your eyes and think with me for a minute. You are pleasing your spouse....doing what he/she likes and in return you are being satisfied in every way. This scenario requires compromise but at the end of the day you are not the only one happy but the love of your life is also happy. What joy! Sounds like fairy tale? Or, not sure how to get there?

Join me next week as we explore principle #1, for a happy, successful marriage.

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