MARRIAGE TALK - THE CONCLUSION

Let's Talk Marriage

Core Principles to Live by for a Happy Successful Marriage

based on a personal compilation

Terry-Ann Scott

Marriage is a beautiful union and bitter can become sweet when God is in it.

While we don't go around looking and hoping for problems, it is a good idea for every couple to have a plan in hand of how to deal with problems if trouble comes knocking on your door. I can't stress this enough; couples are to be prepared to handle pressure, not if, but when it comes. Struggles and trials are set to build us and make us stronger and better - not bitter- if we allow it. Ironically, with the knowledge I have gained through experience, I no longer detest problems the way I did because I see it as an invitation for change (though this can be very challenging). As a result of this, I see my marriage as an adventure or an opportunity to expand and enlarge myself into becoming better and I encourage you to do the same.

If your marriage is in trouble and you are seeking help, or if you are working on your marriage but discouragement keeps presenting itself, do not give up. From God is in it stick to it. My husband often say, "If we can't do our part to make the marriage work then we won't be able to please God and make it into his kingdom. The same discipline it takes to deny self is the same discipline required to please God", and I have to agree. This is serious, if we can't please the one we see, how are we going to please the one we can't see?

Let's face it. Men's needs are totally different from the needs of women. Sometimes it seems as if we are wired differently (OK we are wired differently lol). A man can come home from his aunt's funeral and want sex while the typical woman just does not work like that. It always amazes me also, how when a woman is tired she wants to sleep but when a man is tired, he is never too tired for sex! I don't get it (*smiles*)! God has a perfect plan in all this when he made man and woman and brought us together. It was designed to get us out of ourselves and to live for each other. When God puts a man with a woman (and a woman with a man), there is something in you that only your spouse can unlock and if we allow God to have his way with us in the marital union, things would be much better.

As we conclude this series, remember to work on all the areas we discussed previously. Put God first in your life, form or develop a bond, practice healthy communication, value each other and commit to each other no matter what. Maintain and nurture that bond created in all areas and watch your marriage work. Remember to give it sometime and do not rush or force your spouse into something they are not ready to handle. Let time heal. What you do in time is crucial also, so, be patient, loving, kind, giving, caring and honest. Allow 1 Corinthians 13 to be your guide as it talks about the true characteristics of love. Let love be seen in you and God will do the rest. As usual, giving up is not an option, not when God is in it, so change the way you see your spouse and your marriage. You'd be amazed with what that can do for you. With Christ in the vessel you can smile at any storm.

Until next time, take care and may God bless our marriage.

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