PRINCIPLE #1: LOVE, LOVE,LOVE AND MORE LOVE

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Core Principles to Live by for a Happy Successful Marriage

based on a personal compilation

Terry-Ann Scott

OK, so you think this one was obvious and it is! No marriage can last without the intervention of this four lettered word love; or at least the practicing of the principles of the word love.

I usually find relationships a little funny in that typically before marriage, you are so in love you can't wait to be with the person for ever; you don't want them out of your site and shortly after saying 'I DO', the yelling and the screaming and the 'I HATE YOU's' begin to roll and you may even find you can't stand being around the one you were in love with. Maybe it has even got to the point where you begin to question, What did I do? Do I really love him/her anymore? Or maybe you are already convinced you are no longer in love and it was all a mistake. Sounds familiar? What ever your answer is just read on.

Everyone must learn how to honor and respect a vow because when a vow is made, it is not just between the binding parties involved, but also God. Vows are serious and should not be taken for granted or be easily broken if broken any at all.

A part of the marital vow says "for richer or for poorer", "in good times and in bad","in sickness or in health" and we must take note of these. There is no part in the vow that says until I faults or until I grow weary or 'fed up' of you but it concluded by saying, "till death do us part" and so should it be. With that being said, it should be clear that we must all be prepared to work through our problems while still being committed to the one we love.

One reason why many marriages fail is that people do not really know or understand how to truly love. Love does not see or think of itself, but instead it thinks of others. Love is always giving and never always taking. If we truly understand how to walk in love, many marriages would not fail and many more will be retained and everyone will eventually be happy, but it takes a little more determination and effort on each person's part to get there. You must be prepared to deny self and address your spouse's feelings instead of yours all the time and vice versa. See more about Love here http://www.terryannscott.com/apps/blog/lesson-11-love .

There is one thing we should note. Our love has an end, but God's love has no end, and this is why we need God in our marriages. God is Love, he is endless love and in order for us to love endlessly we are going to need his love to fill us as we give him the opportunity to love through us.

We involve God in our marriages by loving him as he says, "if you love me keep my commandments" and by putting him first in our lives, allowing him to lead us and to help us where our strength may fall short.

The bible tells us that the husband must love the wife as God loves the church and this is no easy task as it requires complete self denial like what God did by laying down his life for us so we can live again. It is the wife's duty to love her husband also and we are commanded to submit to our husbands and to give respect would fall under submission also etc.

Putting God first is key in any marriage as only God searches and knows all hidden truth. He will give us the formula for each other as each individual is uniquely different. He is the binding ingredient to any relationship just as egg is to a cake. Without him we can easily fall apart and crumble.

So, establish a spiritual connection with your spouse by praying and find time to study the word of God together. Invite God into your marriage and allow him to transform things for you.

After the spiritual is dealt with, we can move on to creating a healthy environment in the natural/physical realm (before something takes place in the natural it first takes place in the spiritual).

Still want more answers? Join me next week as we explore Principle #2. You don't want to miss out on this one!

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