PRINCIPLE #5: REMAIN COMMITTED

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Core Principles to Live by for a Happy Successful Marriage

based on a personal compilation

Terry-Ann Scott

One of the things couples often forget within the marital union is their vows; "for richer or for poorer, for better or for worse", and this in short reflects the lack of commitment or preparation that persons enter into the marital union.

Marriage is like a triangle with only three people involved; you, your spouse and God at the head/top of it. In order for a marriage to work, we must be willing to commit to our spouse no matter what. Many marriages fail because of the lack of commitment Many marriages fail because of the disappointment that exceeds failed expectations. Many marriages fail, when couples were probably at the brink of a breakthrough but gave up due to challenges that became burdensome. These are some of the difficulties that comes along with the sacrifices involved in working on a marriage and these issues must be addressed to get desired results. If my husband or I had given up on our marriage, we would never have what we have today. We would never be experiencing the real joys of the marital union and in essence we probably would not be who God wants us to be today. We are who we are because we have chosen to allow God to have his way in our marriage and commit to each other no matter what. Once you stick to something good it can only change you into being something or someone better.

After you have done all, and there is nothing left to do...if things keep falling apart, just stand and commit. It does take two for a marriage to work but I'll add it only begins with one. Do your part even if your spouse is unwilling and God will bring conviction to the heart. Sooner or later your spouse will begin to identify the changes in you and as time goes by they will want that change also. Never involve another party outside of the triangle into your marriage for any kind of fulfillment; whether sexually, emotionally, you name it. If this was already done, it's never too late to be forgiven and make a fresh start but be willing to commit. Pray and ask God for the strength to commit and he will give it to you.

The key to all this however is to...'Love expecting nothing in return'. Now that's the God kind of love lol. This may sound hard, unreasonable or irrational but if you ask, God can give you the strength to and once God is in your marriage, you are bound to see improvements that will encourage your efforts. To love expecting nothing in return helps to eliminates disappointment from failed expectations because then you will be removing all expectations while still producing the effort to give or to do your part.

I'll borrow one line from the movie "Fireproof" and it's 'Never leave your partner within a fire'. Don't be quick to leave your marriage when things go wrong but be willing to commit, stick around and allow God to help you work it out. It took time to get your marriage to where it is now so give your marriage time to heal and remember...'Giving up is not an option'!

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