DO YOU HAVE THIS?

I have counselled and examined the lives of many individuals who have been the victim of great trauma such as rape. In my experience, I find that the response to these individuals are limited to two categories. Persons who have experienced strategies such as this usually becomes laid back or aggressive, quiet or outspoken, reserved or outgoing, you get the picture. They often internalize things or become expressive.

I observed this trend for a while and one day I decided to ask a young lady who was raped and has suffered a great deal of rejection, why it is that she constantly throws herself in the path of others by being extremely friendly, outgoing and jovial. It became obvious that there was a strong need for love and acceptance that had taken control of her, but I still asked her why she repeatedly made efforts and numerous attempts to be accepted knowing that she could also be rejected. Her response was, “no one knows how hard it is for me to put myself on the line,” (that was it) and that was when it dawned on me.

The difference between the two categories I spoke about earlier from individuals of victimization is COURAGE. One set is not willing to risk the chance of being hurt again while the other set has the courage to do so.

This opened my eyes to a lot of things and I was now able to understand the rise and falls of individuals who have suffered emotional loss. The outcome of the difference between two individuals who were abandon by their birth parents or abused, is courage. One individual may struggle to find his/her identity in life due to low self-esteem issues while the other manages to somehow find the strength within them to try again, because of courage.

In life, we all are faced with circumstances and situations that will test our strength. You will be tried, and there are times you may even want to give up, but I encourage you today to get courage. There may always be obstacles before us, but courage will give you the boldness to face any situation and to stand in midst of adversity. We need courage in order to survive. Courage is the binding ingredient. Do not lose hope, do not be afraid to try again and to take risks. You can give up and die, or you can try again. You can either sit and fold your hands, or try again. The choice is yours. Pray to God for the strength to make it through and don’t forget to ask for courage. If you decide to do the latter, please remember that God will not put courage onto your lap, but instead, He will provide the opportunity for you to exercise your faith as courage is already within you. You only need to activate it. Stand up to your Goliath and face your fears.

Courage…do you have it?

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